Monday 15 August 2011

Lifestyle : Do You Believe In Love At First Sight?

Love is strange. It is the word used most, but the least understood, in the whole world. We, therefore, talk about love, express and experience it based on our cultural background, age, sex, education and life experiences.
Consider the following love story: I was driving on a busy street when I saw this young, tall, fair and beautiful lady. I suddenly lost control of myself and drove into a ditch. Among the onlookers who came to my help was the said lady. I offered her a lift. Things "started knocking things" and today, we are married. Interestingly, the lady claimed she felt the same sensation when she first saw me".

Some call this love at first sight.
What is love at first sight?

You experience love at first sight when you feel romantic attractions for a stranger on seeing him or her for the first time. In that particular moment, you think you have seen the most romantic person on earth and will do everything including a smile, greeting and a kind offer to catch his or her attention.

You see him or her as flawless because you overlook all his/her weaknesses. You admire him or her and want to follow him or her everywhere.

You are full of happiness and joy when this stranger is around you. It is the most romantic thing that could ever happen to you in a short moment, when someone comes straight, into your heart and steals it away.

Do you believe in love at first sight?
Some people do not believe in love at first sight. According to scientists, when you see a person of the opposite sex, the brain stimulates a cocktail of chemicals like epinephrine into the nervous system. This gives you a pleasant outlook of life and makes you react romantically towards him or her.

The greater the stimulation, the greater your emotional feeling. People then react differently, depending on their age, sex and self control. What we call love at first sight is, therefore, nothing special because it could happen to anyone at any time. Some further argue that people claiming to experience love at first sight are already prepared to get into relationships. They are not attracted to just anyone but are selective in what they want. In short, beautiful people attract attention. This is normal because human beings, especially men, are visually stimulated. Believing in love at first sight is simply a false sense of love because true love goes beyond the skin.

According to scientists, as we grow and imagine what we want in our future partners, those qualities are registered into our sub-conscious mind. When you meet someone who 'has something similar to what is registered on your mind, you even feel you have known him or her for a long time. This is love at first sight.

Note of caution

Whether you believe in love at first sight or not, you are right because we are the choices we make in life. Appreciate, however, that meeting someone for the first time does not'

guarantee a long and fulfilling relationship. It only offers you the opportunity to find out if .you are compatible. The days after is what makes the difference. between failure, stress and successful, enjoyable companionship.

Consider carefully the physical, ethical, mental and spiritual qualities of your potential lover. Make sure you both have compatible qualities. Work hard on your weakness and ensure you can cope with them.

Do not be afraid to fall in love even with a stranger because love is beautiful but remember it takes time-and patience to grow it. Love is strange but, surely, it does not put premium on ignorance. Look before you leap. Love can give you sight but it can also give you blindness.